A bad February 14? Love is not like my favorite shojo! Why is love difficult for otaku?

Well, yes, let's clarify, This article is about romantic love and the following considerations are a list of the rumors that abound and that suggest – as a joke – why it is difficult for otaku to find a partner. If you cross out a couple, we're in trouble!

Decalogue of why love is difficult for otaku:

1. They do not bathe.
2. They don't leave their houses.
3. They respond to their mothers.
4. They think the world revolves around them.
5. They are pretentious because they understood Evangelion and half know the stars and mathematics.
6. They consider that love is not important.
7. They believe that love is impossible.
8. They are very afraid of rejection/failure, but they do not accept it.
9. They think that others are hollow for following certain trends: they believe they are superior.
10. They perceive themselves as the most marginalized.

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Friends, go to therapy, ha, not true – maybe yes –. Well, now, let's be a little more serious. If you meet a couple of these conditions, consider yourself a completely regular person who, in principle, has a natural fear of pain and also has a very rigid conception of himself. and what you expect from romantic relationships and from others.

Love is difficult for everyone; but sometimes it is also easy. Love is not a matter that we can modulate, weigh, possess, but it is something that we can cultivate and reflect on, it is something that we can build every day, and we must remember that it can also end.

Otaku and love: Guilt and fear of looking stupid

In principle, Don't feel guilty for taking care of love, Not for nothing is it a topic that has been the focus of literary concerns for too many centuries, and if one takes the time to write about it it is because quite a few of us are concerned to some extent. It is not idle to take care of love, even in the face of other “more immediately important” difficulties (ah, yes, money and food, but with a broken heart you don't even feel like eating, right? Have you felt it?); and when it is idle, what better in this capitalist era that even wants to take that away from us! The revolution could be romance!

Love is something full of nuances and at times it seems like just another job that requires a lot of us. What anguish, yes! However, it is not limited to that and the fact of putting things aside because of the pain or effort it could cause us is quite terrible. We only have one life and love is one of the most beautiful things that exist! Don't deny yourself the opportunity to try to love for fear of rejection, the process, or the end.

Love – like death – is inevitable and natural. We don't have all the answers and we really understand little about him. However, let us remember that love must nourish us and must nourish us, with that in mind let us think about it. Let's try to subtract the ego, power dynamics and expectations; And maybe then love will be simple.

Questioning how you recognize love – and its dangers – according to your otaku self

Is it love if you are very nervous at first, or if you feel an immovable tranquility? There are so many stages of love that it is difficult to appreciate and distinguish it, so perhaps it is worth giving ourselves some time, even if you are the type who loves more intensely! At the end of the day, Knowing yourself will be what will guide you in perceiving the love of others and in realizing what kind of love you need.

Be honest with yourself, do you really not need love? Today, right now; And do you need love or just support to help you survive? Recognizing what you need and what you want will prevent you from harming yourself and reduce the harm you could do to others. Although the priority is you, this does not mean that you can justify yourself through your pain or your perspective to be insensitive to others.; And in light of this, this February 14th I would like to tell you why I think love is difficult for otaku.

February 14: Why is love difficult for otaku?

In principle we must recognize that love is complicated and at the same time simple; and we are not the only ones who find it difficult, even less so in this century in which our community is abundant and it is easier for us to express our tastes for the Japanese entertainment industry without being really singled out or despised. We already have safe spaces – unless you meet your most toxic digital FIFA friend at the convention –.

Yes, love is more difficult if you like someone who doesn't even meet the Uchiha, because perhaps the other person is not interested in what you are interested in, despite this it is not impossible for things to work, however, of course it must There is common ground for a relationship to establish, thrive and stay healthy.

Of course, you can always show someone your Chinese jumpsuits, as long as they are interested and open-minded. On the other hand, Yes, we have the stereotype of freaks, rat children and other things that are equally unpleasant; and, we must admit, it is for a reason, we must accept it. So it is difficult for them not to look at us strangely with these precedents. However, not all people are like that and if you are interested in someone who sees the world from the constructs of stereotypes, maybe that's not it, friend.

On the other hand, perhaps It is convenient for us to be in constant development of our character and see ourselves through the eyes of others – to some extent –, it will help. We can always be more sensitive, empathetic and careful, so focus on yourself and how you want to be by and for yourself. Remember that The first safe place is you – I know, it is easier to write it than to do it –.

At the end of the day, being an otaku is a part of you, yes, but it is not everything you are, remember that. Respect yourself by valuing yourself as it should be.

On the other hand, feeling love is one thing and making it thrive with someone obviously also requires the other person. Nevertheless, Let's start with ourselves. What expectation do you have of love? Come on, let's talk about the wonderful shojo.

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The shojo and the illusion

Yes, how we perceive, seek and long for love depends quite a bit on the examples of love that we have known, received and even those that we have lacked. So it is likely that if you are very excited about shojo in which children go to high school and you are already in university, perhaps it is time to let go of that illusion – sniff, sniff, I didn't even want anything from HoneyWorks –.

And in general, I would like to start by talking about how beautiful and ideal love is in Korean dramas and in the most flirtatious anime, however, that is not the only facet, form, reality or possibility of love and perhaps open our perspectives a little more. helps us see how our world works and, of course, how we can function in it, according to our personalities, desires and contexts.

Learning this kind of romantic things, while it can be sure through hundreds of books and anime, There is no more fruitful experience than real life. Strive to lose your fear of rejection, and remember that there is no formula for love, I wish we all had a nice romance like the one in Kimi ni Todoke or that of Wotakoi! But it gets a little complicated.

Keep this in your head: love is not like my favorite shojo, You don't have to arrive on time for that presentation, there are hundreds of opportunities, paths, reasons.

Waifus and husbandos are flirty things, but give yourself a chance, and give flesh and blood people a chance. No one should follow stereotypes, Remember that most of the time the waifus and our husbandos have strong roots in the archetypes of perfection that society craves, in this case, the target audience: us., the otaku; and that is also why it is easy for them to contaminate our thoughts and expectations, and in the long run, this will not do us any good.

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So, is love difficult for otaku?

Anyway, my very dear otaku, the truth is that love is difficult for everyone, In it there are very painful moments and others very adorable, because love, life itself, is a winding path with different places that we will pass through before reaching the end. Let's celebrate this February 14 by watching a shojo! I recommend a healthy one like Wotakoi – Well, I see it as healthy, so I ask you to leave me my issues in comments if you think otherwise –.

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