“How do I feel?” Try asking yourself this question deeply and answer honestly. Maybe a “good”, “bad” or “fair” resonates internally, but more likely a “I don’t know” will emerge, as if something was not quite right, but not bad either. This lack of definition is what Dr. Mario Alonso Puig addresses in his latest book, ‘The Path of Awakening’ (Espasa). The doctor, who put aside his prominent career as a surgeon in Spain and the United States to dedicate himself fully to researching how to deploy human potential and disseminate topics related to well-being and leadership, proposes the thesis that, to achieve a higher level of health, , prosperity and happiness, it must be clear that change begins with oneself and that one must live with a society marked by immediacy, materialism and loneliness. What effect does a context as demanding as the current one, hyperconnected and with constant stimuli, produce? What defines the environment in which we find ourselves is disorientation and discouragement. Disorientation, because the old references in which we placed our base or security were destroyed by what we experienced during the pandemic. And discouragement, because many took care of themselves but became seriously ill or made an effort to move forward with their businesses but were ruined, and there were also numerous projects that did not go ahead and many companies that disappeared. And furthermore, we cannot ignore the extraordinary uncertainty in which we live, with international conflicts that continue to escalate in a disturbing way. How is this reflected in the media? Unfortunately, there is an attachment to news that has connotations negative. And that can cause us to mistakenly think that there are more negatives than positives in the world. It also explains that discouragement, that thought of “there is no one to fix this” or “there is nothing to do.” “The first mechanism to overcome mental conditioning is to stop judging” Mario Alonso PuigWhen looking for solutions to that discouragement , can there be something that saves us? It has always seemed to me that the verb save is a double-edged sword. One of the edges is beautiful, because it evokes situations in which it is possible to prevent someone or something from suffering a misfortune. But the other can lead to waiting for the arrival of an external savior. And that makes some people stop taking responsibility for what they can do to improve things and prefer to wait passively for something or someone to save them. Let’s approach it from that more optimistic edge…If taken from the positive side, there would be to ask ourselves not only what saves us from our fear, helplessness, hopelessness, anger and frustration; but also what can help us restore our spirit. Motivation? In reality, spirit is something different from motivation, as it has more to do with vitality. The discouraged person not only has no specific motivation, but has also lost the courage to even live. It could be said that it is a deeper motivation, the motivation of the soul. Related News standard No What happens when you feel that the pillars of your life are shaking Tomás Navarro standard Yes Well-being Thomas Erikson, author of ‘Surrounded by narcissists’: «We are educating a generation that believes itself to be better than anyone else» Raquel AlcoleaIn her lectures she often talks about the importance of improving the connection between people, why? Connection is the key to everything, because we not only connect with others, we also We do it with things or situations. The usual thing is that we relate to each other with attachment (I like it and I don’t want to do without it) or with aversion (what I don’t even want to hear about), which are radically different. But if we delve deeper into it, we will realize that both attachments and aversions have to do with enormous mental conditioning, and if we also explore this using creativity, we would see that behind a problem there is an opportunity. “We have to change our perspective. judgmental due to an exploratory attitude, more similar to that of children» Mario Alonso PuigHow do you escape from this mental conditioning? The first mechanism to overcome mental conditioning is to stop judging, radically, as if it were a stone that burns us the hand Until when? Until you’ve explored enough to decide if something is right for you or not. We must change the judgmental look for an exploratory attitude. This look is similar to that of children, who instead of judging, explore; and that is why they are capable of establishing enriching relationships with things and situations. How are these types of enriching relationships achieved? It is important to be willing to listen and reflect with humility. What happens is that we tend to relate to ourselves, to others and to the world from automatic reactive patterns. The profoundly transformative thing is to begin to relate to everything and everyone from interest, curiosity, humility, the will to evolve, the desire to learn and kindness. Mario Alonso Puig, during the photo session for the interview. tania sieiroYou have always focused on kindness…When you meet a really kind person you never forget it. First, because it is not so frequent, and second, because it moves deep, beautiful springs in you, and makes you feel good, loved and valued. Kindness has extraordinary value, but it is not usually cultivated. And perhaps it is appropriate to remember experiences with kind people and evoke how they influenced us to be aware of their importance. Furthermore, biologically we respond differently to kindness: we let down walls and fears and build bridges. Kindness is the simplest gesture that brings us closer to a person. This connects with a value that it defends, kindness, but it is something discredited by society. Good people are often taken for fools. Yes, those two words are often perceived with a pejorative tone. We say that we would like our children to be good, or the people around us to be good, but deep down we consider that these human skills are ‘soft skills’, something of a second level. The truth is that true kindness and true compassion can only be exercised by truly strong people, without a single trace of weakness. “We can pursue material objectives, but without forgetting that at the center is what one is, not what one achieves” Mario Alonso Puig Can we get closer to a more precise definition of these two concepts? Kindness is looking, speaking and acting from a peaceful heart. And compassion is understanding that the other person suffers and that they can express that suffering with aggression, irritability or harshness. And interact with her without reacting or increasing that pain, but rather doing everything possible to mitigate it. Someone who, instead of reacting with the same harshness that is transmitted to them, responds with what the other needs to calm down, has achieved self-control and has a heart at peace. Having a heart at peace seems like an arduous undertaking. It is a challenging path. . I talk about this in my book ‘The Path of Awakening’ (Espasa). You could say it is a pilgrimage and anyone who has ever faced it will know what it means. Those who undertake this path are not masochists, but have simply realized that the effort, perseverance, patience and commitment are worth it. With a peaceful heart it is the only intelligent way to live, improve health and enjoy everything around us. Wars, conflicts, greed, envy, jealousy and revenge come from a heart at war. Is it something that can be perceived from the outside? There are people whose mere presence makes us feel better. And others that generate tension, without us knowing why. We project our darkness and radiate our light. What does it mean to be successful? Maybe you don’t like what I’m going to say. This society is deeply sick and we do not want to recognize our illness. When you are sick and go to the doctor or hospital, you do not hide your condition, but rather you talk about the symptoms naturally to receive treatment. But we live in a sick society that has left aside its spiritual dimension. “Having a peaceful heart is the only intelligent way to live, improve health and enjoy what surrounds us” Mario Alonso Puig Why do you think this society is sick? Because many people are suffering from mental illnesses with anxiety and depression. I wonder why, if we are human beings, we sometimes treat each other with so little humanity. I’m no longer talking about those paintings, but about unwanted loneliness, indifference and feeling like you don’t matter in the place where you work. I go further, because when you see how we treat nature and how incredibly materialistic we have become, we realize that we have completely moved away from our spiritual dimension. How can you say that a society like this is a healthy society? The problem is not in having the disease, but in not recognizing it. If it is not recognized, is it possible to change something? Maybe so, but it seems that we are ashamed to admit that everything we have achieved and done from a scientific point of view and technology, which has been as overwhelming as it has been beneficial, has left aside the most important human dimensions. Albert Einstein said that not everything that can be measured is important and that not everything important can be measured. But we are obsessed with measure, power, fame and fortune. We can live in a more harmonious, joyful and creative way, with a greater entrepreneurial spirit and even pursue material goals, but without forgetting that at the center is what one is, not what one achieves. The challenge I pose to achieve true transformation and not wait for someone to save us is: ask yourself what you can do to improve something in your circle of influence.
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