Having some childhood trauma is relatively easy, as experts warn, who also point out that it is transgenerational, that is, it is transmitted from generation to generation
Trauma It comes from the Greek and means wound. There are physical and psychological. And if we focus on the second, it becomes any circumstance that we have lived and that we have impacted in an important emotional wayand that, most likely, it had to be silenced. And everything that surrounds this word is usually hidden or omitted.
Nobody wants to talk about it, or at least very few like to count on this. We do not want to put name, even if being traumatized is simple. In fact, Having some childhood trauma is relatively easyaccording to experts, who also point out that it is transgenerational, that is, it is transmitted from generation to generation.
“Are we all traumatized?” ask Judith Tirarecognized Spanish and disseminator youtuber, to Alicia Álvarez, an expert psychologist in traumatic emotional memoryin the podcast ‘I had a doubt’. The specialist has recently published the book ‘How much does your backpack weigh?’ (Ed. ARPA) in which posttraumatic stress explores as a more frequent reality of what is thought, and a Video with the influencer -More of 600,000 subscribers on YouTube – explains different factors about this problem, and especially how to heal it.
“We are all likely to develop traum Trauma, crisis and conflicts unit in the Autonomous University of Barcelona (UAB). “And how can it be that the same experience is for someone a trauma and for another person?” Consult the content creator.
The role of resilience in overcoming traumas
«What conditions that you develop trauma is subjective experience, not only does the event influence, it depends on how you live the event and how you manage it; One of the factors to overcome it is resiliencewhich is the ability to return to the baseline, something that can be trained, ”explains the psychologist, who delves into the ability to «Educate, train and strengthen» These problems. According to the Foundéu (Foundation of Urgent Spanish) it is the “ability to adapt and recovery against an adverse situation.”
There are obstacles in life that cannot be avoided, but we can learn to face them. How? “Everything that gives us well -being – such as socialization, sports, outdoor activities – help us to be more prepared to face any situation,” clarifies the expert.
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Recurrence of the traumatic event. Those who have experienced trauma can relive the experience through memories, nightmares, flashbacks or intrusive thoughts, which can generate anguish and affect the quality of life.
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Avoidance. Trauma can lead us to avoid situations, places or people that remind us of the traumatic experience, as well as losing interest in activities that we enjoyed before.
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Emotional and physical hyperactivity. The person may experience anxiety, irritability, difficulties in reconciling sleep or starting easily.
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Emotional and behavioral alterations. Trauma can deregulate our emotions, leading us to feel guilt, shame, anger or sadness disproportionately or uncontrollable, affecting our social interaction.
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Difficulties in relationships. Trauma can hinder our ability to establish healthy and lasting relationships, generating feelings of isolation, distrust or fear of emotional contact with others.
And how is a person really traumatized with one who is not? Alicia Álvarez explains that the basic difference It is that «if you live an adverse event, – for example the death of a loved one- you will agree but you will not develop traum the Reexperimentation (Feel that you are reliving the event through flashbacks, dreams or intrusive thoughts), avoidance behaviors wave Hyperalertthat can be manifested as aggressiveness, concentration or insomnia problems, ”he deepens.
“Your feeling is that you are never sure,” says the expert in the podcast video, where she states that the childhood is given the most traumatic cases, because it is the time when we are most vulnerable.
Therapy and synaptic plasticity
“In childhood and adolescence it is where there is more likely to develop a traumatic event because the development of the person is evolving,” develops the expert who also warns that They are transmitted from generation to generation.
«If our reference figures have failed to manage it, we are indigestible; The wonderful thing about children is that they have a lot of synaptic plasticity », something that is defined as the ability of the brain to adapt and change in response to experience.
«The harmful environment must disappear, once there you can start working to be sure. Many children in areas of abuse, for example, will think that this will be because it is what he knows, and that the way of treating or wanting is that, so it goes by giving them other models, so that they understand other forms of be related. The attachment, which is the link we have people, we learn from children, and so that we grow up we develop this way to develop with the rest, ”says the psychologist.
Alicia Álvarez explains how in therapy, what is done is “an exercise of mentalization; that is to say You ‘leave’ your brain so that they can think of the round trip, and understand other realities and rebuild their experiences from another perspective ».
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