“Some people go to a psychologist because the person who should do it hasn’t done it”

It would seem that your boss has an addiction to leaving work late. Maybe you don’t feel like going home, maybe you don’t have friends, or maybe you’re one of those who believe that leaving work late every day makes it seem like you’re more committed to the company. Also, he doesn’t have too many skills like leader. He is one of those people who has been in the company for a thousand years and has risen without undergoing any specific training. We can say that Carlos’s boss is better climber than leaderThat is, he knows everything he has to do to go far but he is not so clear about how he should lead a team. equipment even though he believes he is a good leader. He work environment that Carlos’s boss promotes is horrifying. He schedules meetings at the last minute every day, constantly contradicts himself, does not give clear orders, increases conflict and envy, blames his team for his mistakes, takes ownership of their achievements and does not give them any visibility.

This has an easy solution, with a course of leadershipa closer follow-up by the Carlos boss and a few hours with the psychologist we would have everything done; but no, in the end the one who is going to the psychologist is Carlos and half of the team. Poor Carlos, he needs to work distress and the frustration what he feels

I also remember the case of María. Maria has a narcissistic coupleone of those that does everything well. María’s partner is so top that she even allows herself to give lessons for life. María’s partner tells her children that their mother is stupid, blames her for everything that happens and humiliates her in front of everyone. Furthermore, being so good, it has a lover. A young girl who admires him and makes him feel winner. Now he has changed his car using savings. Or rather taking Maria’s money. He often asks Maria for “loans” for his great projects. He has lost more than he has won, he has always had bad luck – according to him – but he is convinced that he will soon triumph.

Poor little Maria. If it weren’t for the children, I would no longer be putting up with such an element. In fact, it is because of him that he comes to the psychologist. Needs aid to keep peace at home and give a positive model to their children.

I could tell you about Carlota. Carlota’s real problem is her mother. Carlota’s mother is the daughter of a businessman who has been squandering the family fortune. He decided not to study since he had the future insured and valued that he did not need. Carlota’s mother’s life has been characterized by a lot of bad business decisions that have been decreasing the family assets. Carlota suffers a lot when she sees her making decisions without knowing what she is doing. Carlota does not understand why he does not trust her and yet she trusts a bank employee who is ensuring his retirement with the commissions he receives for the products he is selling to his mother.

Poor Charlotte. She will always be the girl. “What do you know about business and finance,” her mother tells her, forgetting that Carlota graduated with honors from an important American university and held a management position in an English financial institution, yes, one of those in The City. He returned home a long time ago to try to family heritage wouldn’t end up too hurt.

Carlos, Marías and Carlotas are everywhere. It makes me very sad. Whenever I just did a session with profiles like them, I think that they shouldn’t be the ones who come. They don’t have any problems, they are just close to a person who should go to a psychologist.

More often than we think, those who should visit the psychologist do not do so.

You can discover other tips from Tomás Navarro (@tomasnavarropsi on Instagram) to set limits on those people who hurt us in his work ‘Your red lines’ (Zenith/Planeta). And also, you can read other articles by Tomás Navarro in ABC Bienestar here.