Four young people wrote a handjob diary for HS Nyti for two weeks. The entries were as unique as their authors.
For some it was a way to waste time. Some do it for lack of sex. For some, it is “nothing earth-shattering”.
Four young adults kept a handjob diary for HS Nyti for two weeks. During that time, they masturbated a total of 24 times. Personal jerking numbers ranged from 0 to 16.
Both the times of solo sex and thoughts about arousal in general were recorded in the diary.
Based on the markings, a picture emerges of four very different jerks. Due to the sensitivity of the subject, they do not appear in the story under their own names. The authors' identities are known to the editors.
The authors of the jerking diary were collected with the HS survey, which received more than 500 responses.
Most of the respondents said that they have solo sex 3–4 times a week. The majority of those who masturbated daily were men. Of the respondents, the women engaged in solo sex the least. People of the opposite sex equally represented both extremes of the answers.
The most solo sex was practiced in the evening before going to bed.
For an 18-year-old For July masturbation is an important way to relax at the end of the day. Jerking also makes it easier to fall asleep.
“The others are sleeping. Quiet and fast draw. I haven't really felt like it, even though I really wanted to before. Now all of a sudden the real cravings hit. It felt good and I fell asleep quickly after jerking off”he writes on Monday evening, December 11.
During orgasm, oxytocin hormone is released in the brain. It calms the body's alarm systems. In addition to oxytocin, endorphins and prolactin are released during orgasm, which reduce stress and calm the body.
Juuli says that she got to know her own body better through jerking off. Talking about sex is also easier for him than before. Juuli feels that jerking off and fantasizing is also useful in a relationship.
“I think fantasizing invigorates the relationship, and at the same time I get to explore my own preferences.”
Influence as if society has become more sexist. We already have some courage to speak out loud about jerking off, i.e. masturbation. Talk about sexual pleasure has become a commodity.
In social influencers' instastories, sex toys are recommended like any other cosmetics. Ina Mikkolan The Runkarker's Handbook and M
arja Kihlström Big O teach porn literacy. Sex talk can also be found in podcasts, such as Glow and Lustcast.
At times, jerking offs have aroused remorse and shame in Juul. On Monday, December 4, she says she experienced so-called post nut clarity, which usually refers to the feeling of disgust or shame after an orgasm.
“Home alone. I usually masturbate whenever I'm alone. I hit post nut clarity, what is it called among women now. Regretted a little.”
Over half of the participants' jerking times were related to porn consumption.
In addition to porn sites, porn was viewed on the social media site Reddit. Porn was said to feed the imagination and one's own fantasies.
Väestöliitto's most recent Finsex research according to men seek arousal by watching porn more than women. In a study of men under 35 who had masturbated in the past month, about 90 percent had experience using online porn.
For a 17 year old For Ville watching porn is almost daily. Sometimes browsing your social feed inspires you to watch porn.
“I was browsing Snapcat on my phone. There were videos of her doing gymnastics in the story of the old Tinder match. It excited me so much that I grabbed my hand,” he writes in his diary.
Ville jerked off a total of 16 times in two weeks. Some days he masturbates twice.
“Monday the 4th of 12 at 11 pm in bed. Evening sex, I watched porn.”
“Tuesday 11.12. at 1 pm in an armchair. I was browsing porn on Reddit on my phone and reached for it.”
Ville's diary entries are rather short and repetitive. For him, jerking off is rather a way to waste time and relax, he says. However, Ville says that he is interested in different ways of jerking off.
Masturbation is, according to research, a common way to compensate for having sex with a partner. In Finsex research solo sex had been practiced significantly more during the month if intercourse had been less than once a week.
Living in a long distance relationship Erika19, wrote in her diary that she masturbates while thinking about her partner.
“I masturbated at home in the bedroom while on the phone with my girlfriend. I got excited telling him what I would like to do to him if I were with him. A kind of phone sex, then,” Erika writes on Friday, December 8.
On the other hand, jerking off can also be a shared experience. Erika wrote in her diary on December 4 that she masturbated in front of her girlfriend:
“I jerked off at my girlfriend's place, sitting on her stomach. I let him look but not touch (for a while). I got excited from the kiss with my girlfriend that preceded it.”
Some however, thinking about a sexual act does not turn you on.
One of them is 23 years old Mary. He says that he is more excited by insinuations and chemistry between people.
That's why, for example, books excite him more than watching porn. Maria says that she has tried “if any type of porn”, but nothing has really worked.
“The sounds of snoring are more embarrassing or funny than exciting”he describes in his diary.
During the two weeks, Maria didn't fart once. It's normal for him. Sometimes it can go a month or two without masturbating, he says.
“I guess I could partly blame it on the stress created by studying, but not entirely. It has never happened too often”Maria reflects in her diary.
In her diary, Maria thinks about whether her inability to jerk off is because she doesn't know herself properly.
On the other hand, it could be that sexual pleasure has become a so-called absolute value in our culture. A person can even feel defective if they don't want enough sex, says the cultural historian Marika Haataja In an interview with HS.
Maria says that she experiences arousal. However, it rarely leads to jerking. Often tingling and a feeling of heat in the body are enough.
“It feels good, but it has never been so earth-shattering for me. I get better endorphin spikes from sports and from crossing my own limits”Maria writes.
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