I greet you like every Thursday, hoping that you have had an excellent week. I share with you that many people come to psychotherapeutic consultation for the first time without knowing very well how it works or what the therapy. On some occasions we already have references taken or, from filmsor of series either songs or in the best of cases the experience of friends or family who have experienced the process of a psychotherapeutic curemore specifically, of an analytical cure.
Sigmund Freud used to say that there is no “tranquilizing medicine so effective as are some few kind words” and in reality the psychotherapy It works this way because, “we obtain the best therapeutic results in those cases where we act as if we were not pursuing any specific goal, allowing ourselves to be surprised by each new orientation and acting freely and without any prejudice.”
Analytical experience reveals to us that it is arranging the words as affections adjust. If you went to a space psychoanalytic psychotherapy You would discover that there is a place in it for you to talk about yourself and what ails you and on the part of the analyst you will find a listening “without memory and without desire”, as Wilfred Bion mentioned. An interesting phrase is also attributed to Lacán that says “talk, it will be wonderful“.
This apparent disinterest in specific points on the part of the analyst is not because he is little interested in what he hears or does not have something to say, but because in this “artificial blindness”, which is also called by Freud, the analyst seeks to find these patterns. of behavior that are appearing in different scenarios of the subject analyzed. On many occasions we hope to find explanations for our motions as if it were a kind of cause and effect relationship. As if the fact that the person turns his gaze to the side or crosses his leg or grabs his ear adds up to enough evidence to be able to determine what ails the person. It’s not as linear as this works.
It is about beginning to carry out an investigation, the analyst and the patient together to be able to understand what hurts. Behavior is multidetermined and human beings are very complex, but with patience and time you can walk the path to a cure. It is true, there are some guidelines in the psychological interview technique that guide the therapist’s work in preparing the patient’s clinical history or psychodynamics, but that is not in conflict with promoting free association, that is, you at the same time Being in front of your therapist you can talk freely about what is going on in your mind without stopping to consider whether what you think is good to say or not.
In conclusion, human beings always have something to say and we like to find someone who listens to us and understands us. Although psychoanalytic psychotherapy is a space that promotes the fact that we can talk about our thoughts and affects with the intention of ordering them and thereby ordering the affects, understanding then that it is an act of intelligence and will, above all and as vehicle of the cure is a relationship. Theoretically we call it transference and it is what allows the affects to be conveyed and brought into play in the therapeutic setting so that we can redefine them and return them to the patient, thereby enabling a deeper understanding of what ails them.
It seems that for people it is not enough to understand because once the understanding is presented to them they then ask, what do I do with this?, or how do I take it off? These are probably cases where insight is not truly achieved.
The goal would be not to remain in rationalization but to be able to emotionally integrate it into a more adaptive and integrated functioning in life. Peace and good.
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