Mania is a condition in which a person has a period of extreme and abnormally high changes in their mood or emotions, energy level or activity level.
Surely you have ever heard the phrase of ‘I have mania’ or ‘that mania I have’ referring to a specific person. As the psychologist says Paloma Reythe mania itself is “an disproportionate irrational aversion that we feel towards a person and that is not always based on objective reasons.”
Some factors that influence this aversion are:
– Personality differences: We do not feel compatibility or, even, we dislike the way of being and act of the other person. I insist, not always with a clear reason.
– Past experiences: We may have had some unpleasant past experience in which the other person has been involved.
– Envy or jealousy: If we perceive that the other person has something we want, we can reject it.
– Bad interpretations: A comment or gesture may have been misunderstood and give the starting gun to generate aversion by another person.
– own insecurities: Sometimes we project in other aspects of ourselves that we do not like.
– Unconscious factors: Something in your way of communicating, moving or speaking generates discomfort and we don’t know why.
– Social influence: If the environment has a negative opinion of someone, we may adopt this vision without questioning it.
Do I have someone mania?
But realizing that we have mania to someone is not always easy. Sometimes we disguise that aversion and make it happen to something else, as thoughts that this person is really problematic or unpleasant. Psychologist Paloma Rey indicates that to know if we are falling into this bias we can pay attention to a series of behaviors and sensations:
– Everything it does seems false or annoying.
– We resent your presence without a clear reason.
– We are glad when it is wrong.
– We look for mistakes in your behavior or minimize your achievements.
– We cannot explain logically why we fall badly.
– Other people do not see what we see.
If we want to stop having a person, we have to be aware that we will have to do a great job. Some of the things we can do are:
– Question your thoughts: Do I have evidence of what I think? Is it really so annoying or am I exaggerating? We must question the prism with which we evaluate that person.
– Recognize it: Accept that the feeling we have is subjective and try to understand where it comes from.
– Reduce exposure to negative influences: Avoid talking badly about the person with others feed the mania with constant complaints.
– Look for your qualities: try to see something positive in that person to balance perception.
– Practice empathy: Ask us what is behind their behavior and if there is something in common between them.
– Exhibit controlled: Spending time with her at neutral times can help change perception.
– Accept the difference: Not everyone has to like us, but we can learn to live without affecting us.
If mania persists and generates a clearly significant discomfort, it would be recommended to reflect more thoroughly or work the subject with a professional.
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