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Hello,
The way we tell stories matters a lot. I mean, it is not only important what stories we tell – in a journalistic piece, in a book, in a series, in a film, in a podcast, in a word-of-mouth anecdote – but also the way in which we focus and tell them. . The perspective, the point of view, the words, the images, what is shown and what is not, what is told and what is not.
I think about it a lot because it’s part of my job, but I came back to it when I sawthe ‘Want’ seriesby director Alauda Ruiz de Azúa (who fascinated me with ‘Five Wolves’, if you haven’t seen that film, I can’t recommend it more). And if that came to mind while I was watching it, it was because it is not about the series telling a story of sexist violence but about what exactly it tells and how it tells it. It seems to me that it manages to convey the complexities behind these stories, that it helps to see and understand parts of the phenomenon about which there are too often prejudices or simplistic ideas.
We need pedagogy about how sexist violence works, about how it operates on sexist structures that play their part in all this. And this series contributes to that pedagogy while you get hooked on a story. Which, by the way, seems to me to have some parallels – and a fundamental difference –with the case of Gisèle Pelicotthat can be used to ask us some questions.
Just this Tuesday the film directors Icíar Bollaín and Juana Macías came to the editorial office to participate in the meetings we hold with members (you have the recording herein case you want to see it). And this topic came up again. Because Bollaínwith his ‘Nevenka’and Macías with‘The Station Girls’(based on a real case of sexual exploitation of minors in care in Palma de Mallorca) watch and tell stories of violence in which they do not spectacularize or fall into stereotypes. They just try, like ‘Querer’, to do the opposite, to reappropriate important stories to tell them in another way.
This is what has been happening for a long time with journalists, writers, communicators… that attempt to tell in another way, to put another perspective, another approach, another story.
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"We have gotten tired of saying that it is not necessary to report to access rights, but why do we demand it on a personal level? The objective is not to be named as a victim of sexist violence but to be better. That small change of focus helps… it’s more like ‘I notice you’re sad’, ‘count on me’… it’s not ‘tell me you’re a victim of such’. That will come out. Or not, because maybe he never gets to name it that way."
It’s easy to tell your friend what she should do. And it is much more difficult to stop and understand, to listen, to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. This 25N my partner Marta Borraz proposedmake a reportto tell how sometimes, in that insistence on ‘reporting’ or ‘you have to do this’, we lose focus on what women who at some point suffer violence need.
“I have had cases of women whose friends have even accompanied them to file a complaint and then have become angry because she resumed the relationship, even though this going back and forth is very common. You have to know that the alternation in affection is what hooks them,” explains psychologist Bárbara Zorrilla. The article is full of informationvery valuable.
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One of the writers I have had pending for a long time is Lucía Berlin. A few days ago I came across a podcast about her and the story of her life intertwined with the story of how she wrote what she wrote has made me can’t wait to stop by a bookstore or library.I leave it to youin case you want to listen to it.
And next week, more.
Ann
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