1. The difference between aggression, bad relationships and frustrated expectations
In the case of Iñigo Errejón there are two complaints that will be resolved in court and with the guarantees of the Rule of Law for complainants and the accused. The focus should be on improving the care protocols for women victims of sexual assault or sexist violence in their police, procedural and institutional journey, on the demand that the purple dots and other information and security spaces be maintained, in sexual education and surveillance so that companies and organizations have detection and action instruments. But these days we have witnessed a mix of accusations of crime at the police station and testimonies of sexist, selfish, inconsiderate or unethical behavior, in addition to simple expectations of a frustrated romantic relationship and evaluations of sexual options in which there are games of domination and submission. Not everything is the same nor should it be mixed, neither from the feminist movements nor from the media or public powers. Not every bad relationship, no matter how much it has made us suffer, no matter how much it has damaged us, whether it is unpresentable or a cocoon, is an attack. Feminism serves, and has served me, to acquire security and tools that allow us to express expectations and desires about intimacy and sex, love, and personal, social, and work relationships. Feminism serves to learn to say no and reject what harms us, humiliates us or simply does not bring us anything positive and not to become continuous victims of male narcissism. Furthermore, by converting into aggression the fact that we are not treated as we expect or desire, we trivialize true aggressions and run the risk of becoming the caricature of feminism that the extreme right makes: puritanical, reactionary, moralistic and incapable of taking responsibility for our actions and choices. If we lack that decision-making capacity, feminism also serves to help us acquire it.
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