This word implies so many forms that we often consider them normal in our environment.
The issue of violence is an issue that does not stop worrying everyone. There is talk of social violence, school violence, domestic violence, in general, violence in all areas where relationships occur. And it is precisely in relationships where our ability to reconcile, empathy and conflict resolution skills is put to the test. Violence encompasses any action that threatens the physical, psychological and spiritual integrity of another.
Talking about violence is easy when the aspect that is mentioned is an aspect that is evident to everyone. No one will doubt that if we talk about an assault where the perpetrator kicks and threatens a victim with a weapon, we are talking about violence. It is obvious. However, it may not be so easy to agree on other attitudes and actions that, far from being considered violent, have been considered “educational”, and at the height of inconsistency, even “educational”. Spanking, whipping, hitting, pulling the ears, have been seen as usual practices and are part of the education of children; but it is not easy to accept that they are acts of domestic violence. On the other hand, yelling, humiliating, shaming, blaming, threatening, driving them away with the famous “time out” are actions that also threaten the psychological and spiritual integrity of the person, that is, it is violence. And it is that these, as they do not leave a palpable “bruise”, are better hidden, and those who violate them (parents), justify themselves with reasons that seek a “greater good”: the education of their children, with the aggravating circumstance that they are convinced that it is so.
The great tragedy of all these actions is that the child who receives them, while still small and unable to count on the cognitive or psychological resources to process these life experiences, may believe that their parents are correct and that they are doing it on their own. good, because they love it. The child does not know and cannot understand that his parents, the people who are in charge of taking care of him, of protecting him, are the same ones who cause him fear, pain, humiliation and suffering. This “dissonance” obviously confuses him and he ends up accepting that these actions “deserves them”, that he is guilty of being beaten, humiliated, pushed away, his gaze and love withdrawn.
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