Violence Victims of sexual violence can blame themselves and return to their abuser – expert hopes for more diverse sex education

As long as there is a speech in power in which victims of sexual violence are blamed, the victims also ask whether they caused it to happen themselves, says specialist Katriina Bildjuschkin.

To the feeling of being left behind and seeking refuge and praise are inherent traits in a person.

They are also typical of those who have experienced sexual violence and abuse, says a sex educator, a specialist at the National Institute for Health and Welfare (THL). Katriina Bildjuschkin.

In an extensive article published on Sunday, “Niko” interviewed by HS talked about falling victim to a sexual crime as a teenager. The police officer who investigated the case contacted the young man when he turned 18, and a sex relationship developed between the police and the vulnerable young person.

Read more: A Helsinki-based police officer investigates an extensive series of sex offenses, including a 15-year-old boy – When the boy turned 18, the police sought sex with him

In the article The history of “Nikon” is said to have included abuse and a great sense of ineligibility.

“Those who use children and young people for their own purposes claim that they provide security and protect each other from everything. In this situation, it may seem flattering to be fit, ”Bildjuschkin says.

Therefore, it is not uncommon for a person to return to his or her abuser.

“Either because there’s so much good in the situation despite everything, or because he wants a corrective experience. He thinks I’m stiffer this time. ”

It is typical for a victim of sexual violence to blame himself for what happened. So it was with “Niko”.

“As long as we have such talk that the perpetrator of the violence would be guilty, so long as the victims also ask if they caused it to happen.”

A speech emphasizing the victim’s drunkenness or clothing is a typical example of this, Bildjuschkin says.

The latest according to the results of the school health survey, more people had experienced sexual violence in the year before the response.

More people also reported experiencing sexual harassment or harassing suggestions. Among girls, experiences of both violence and harassment were more common.

Read more: “Every day, adult men praise my shapes or ask for dating” – Up to half of girls experience sexual harassment, School Health Survey says

In the HS article, the director responsible for sexual health and sexual violence at the Boys ‘House and the Girls’ House Tommi P. Pesonen said 15 of the 121 victims of sexual violence who became clients of the house this year are boys.

A large proportion of sexual offenses are likely to be hidden, and it is not known exactly whether the differences between the sexes are so great, Bildjuschkin says.

He estimates that the threshold for boys to talk about the violence they experience is higher than for girls. Natural opportunities to talk about this may not come up as often.

“Mainly a woman is the one who applies for sexual and reproductive health services. At the same time, enlightened staff can ask about possible experiences of violence. When boys are offered a condom, there is no need for contraceptive counseling, but condoms can be picked up from Ärra. ”

Bildjuschkin says that open, comprehensive, diverse sex education based on gender and sexual orientation can not only make it easier to identify and talk about sexual violence, but also prevent a person from committing a sexual offense.

“If you start with a health education class to tell you that girls like boys and boys like girls, sex education doesn’t reach everyone.”

In this case, the message does not reach, for example, those who are not interested in the opposite sex or who are not sure about their gender, Bildjuschkin estimates.

According to him, schools should also be able to say that some experience pleasure and enjoyment of subjugation. He adds that at the same time it must be said that coercing such activities is illegal and there must be zero tolerance for it.

“And that you can get help with that.”

If you are between the ages of 13 and 28 and feel you have been sexually abused or a victim of sexual violence, you can confidentially contact the emergency telephone helpline for sexual violence at the Loisto Setlement Girls ‘and Boys’ House. 050 321 1345 or to [email protected].

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