He lives in the Pyrenees and is an atypical psychologist: he does ski therapy, pedaling, climbing or walking. With their reflections and books, translated into more than 30 languages, it helps individuals and companies, where it promotes emotional well -being policies and resilience.
Among his works are titles … As ‘Kintsukuroi’, ‘Wabi Sabi’. ‘Emotional strength’, ‘Think beautiful’ and ‘your red lines’, all edited by Planet. He has just published ‘La Senda Kaizen’ (Neko Books), where he reveals how to make small daily changes to achieve a fuller and more balanced life. We address with him some of the keys to his last book.
“Kaizen mentality invites you to achieve a lot, does that go against the culture of effort
“No, it does not go against, but has a nuance that can be seen with what I instill my daughter about the culture of the effort and it has to be an effort focused or will not help.” We often strive in things that will not come anywhere and the effort is assumed as a kind of penance. Kaizen helps those who cannot, do not want or do not know how to strive. Life does not have to be a fight. Step by step you can have a better life, it is not necessary to run, walking is better than doing nothing.
“Is it good to pursue concrete objectives?”
—The objectives allows you to focus and have priorities, but I have proven that when you reach the goal one relaxes and returns to the previous situation. The place where one is is the result of the path it makes, so if we don’t like to travel another path that goes in another direction. The goal is very far, the road is already, it is today. It is about focusing attention on the here and now, enjoying the process and small achievements.
“Kaizen invalidates excuses such as lack of time, desire and motivation …?”
“Yes, because no time, forces or motivation. Small actions are more effective than large and generate motivation microdosis that work. With decisions and microdecions, a virtuous circle is entered that feeds and strengthens the results.
“Kaizen lessons that have to be recorded on fire …
—Import and take control, focus on processes rather than the results and give up the conformist mentality. With these three pillars one is happier, healthier and balanced. And you can also enjoy a prettier life. When one believes that he cannot do anything, he lets himself be dragged by everything; When one becomes obsessed with the results, he has not usually influenced his unreal expectation; And when one is conformist, he is anchored in pain and renounces to be better. Life is not always easy, but it gives us that great gift that are decisions. Decision to decision We can complicate or provide life.
“We often strive in things that will never reach anything, the effort must be focused”
Tomás Navarro
Psychologist
—If what is thought affects what is already doing what is done, how can thoughts be changed?
“It is easier to change what is thought that what is done but one thing is needed: humility.” Without humility to accept that some of the things that are thought are wrong, it cannot be changed. Some people are more flexible than others to change their thoughts. But I have a technique that helps that is “ysiism”, which invites you to rethink things with a: “And if …”, “and if I could …”, “and if I tried …”. Not everything that is thought is true, nor help, nor benefits. It’s about questioning, unlearning, leaving space, exploring and searching. Sometimes a test is needed, sometimes trusting the right person … we are wrong, we don’t know everything. You have to look for quality help to have a better life.
“To raise emotional work proposes a tandem between motivation and responsibility, why?”
—The responsibility prints address and gives satisfaction. An example. No one can fight their favorite dish, against a sweet appetitious or a bag of fried potatoes specially designed to want more. But responsibility is born from a conscious decision and in this example implies wanting to take care of it because yes, regardless of what is desired or sits. And then a great reward is achieved that is the satisfaction of having done what had to be done. Doing something for responsibility gives pleasure and improves self -esteem.
—A frequent message in his work is to forget the complaint and blame others …
“The complaint is comfortable and compassionate, but completely useless to have a better life.” Each one has his life and the letters that touch him. But let’s play the letters in the best possible way assuming responsibility, making decisions that help us and stop blaming others. More action and less complaint: let’s move from victimism to prominence.
“But sometimes, even if you act, no results are achieved …
“To accept that not everything has to be immediate and that we are prepared to persevere.” Even the demonized dopamine is part of our perseverance mechanism. Let’s work perseverance and accept that everything requires a process. Tomorrow those who are able to persevere intelligently – not stubborn, that is something else – they will have a much better life. You have to focus on the way. The rush are not good friends of anything, so in general, but they are even less than the consolidated changes.
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