Mothers only want the best for their children – but what if “the best” for one daughter means a nightmare for the other? Such a case is currently enraging the network.
Frankfurt – The ex of your best friend or best friend? “Taboo,” many people would probably answer. If only to protect the friendship, for many it would probably never be an option to date the ex of close acquaintances. In addition, the question arises as to whether you want that at all – given the fact that you were probably able to experience first-hand what didn’t work out in the ex-relationship.
But some people do not shy away from getting involved with ex-partners of people from their closest circle for the sake of great love. And some even go one step further: Im Reddit forum Am I the Asshole?, a mother who goes by the alias u/mommyinthemud reveals that her younger daughter Hayleigh is planning to marry her older daughter Jennifer’s ex-fiancé. But that’s not all: Jennifer and Sam’s wedding was canceled just because he already had feelings for Sister Hayleigh.
Woman marries her sister’s ex-fiancé: mother causes outrage
In the Reddit forum, people share actions where opinions differ. The community then discusses whether the person in question is “the asshole” or the behavior was understandable. For example, one woman deleted all the wedding photos she took at a friend’s party because she didn’t get anything to eat. Users agreed: “Not the asshole”.
The mother is now asking the community if she’s “the asshole” for going to the younger daughter’s wedding to the older daughter’s ex-fiancé. She tells the story like this: “Jennifer is mad at me for going to Hayleigh’s wedding. She says, ‘I condone her evil sister’s behavior – as always,’ but that’s just not true.”
When Jennifer (30) and Sam’s wedding was called off and they found out that the reason was Sam’s love for his future sister-in-law Hayleigh (28), the mother immediately called her and asked her to reconsider the relationship. “Not only for her sister, but for the reason, ‘if he does it once, he could do it twice,’ and I didn’t want her to get hurt,” adds the mother.
Woman is said to have pinched her fiancé from her sister
Hayleigh then assured her that the two were meant to be together and had known each other for so long, “so I left it at that.” She also spoke to her fiancé. He apologized but didn’t think it was fair to marry Jennifer when he knew in his heart that he loved Hayleigh. “They’ve been together for a year now and they seem really happy and in love,” admits the mother.
Her husband, however, notes the Reddit user, sticks with her older daughter, Jennifer. “He’s disgusted with the whole situation and doesn’t want anything to do with it. He even said he didn’t want to give Sam his blessing and didn’t want to walk Hayleigh down the aisle,” she said, explaining the dilemma within the family. “I don’t like the situation any more than my husband or Jennifer, but they don’t understand that ignoring reality doesn’t undo it,” she continues. Hayleigh was devastated that her father didn’t want to walk her down the aisle. So the trenches are deep.
The mother tried to teach her older daughter Jennifer that it’s not about which side someone is on, but about being able to forgive. On the other hand, Jennifer tries to make her understand that her little sister deliberately stole her husband and that she already knew this pattern from her childhood with Hayleigh. “I told her that she has to learn to let go of certain things in the past in order to move forward, and if Hayleigh did indeed tease Sam like she says, then Hayleigh did her a favor,” the mother tried to placate.
Woman marries her sister’s ex-fiancé: Netz has no understanding
The whole thing culminated in the fact that the mother received an ultimatum from her older daughter: “She said if I go to the wedding, it means that Hayleigh has always been my favorite child and that she will never speak to me again .” But she wanted to go to the wedding, just as she said she would have gone to Jennifer’s wedding the other way around. “She said okay and hung up.”
The majority of the Reddit community took issue with the mother’s behavior. Users vented their anger in the comments:
- “Hayleigh is so obviously the favorite kid here – poor Jennifer.”
- “It’s so sad that she’s so scared of risking her relationship with Hayleigh that she doesn’t even tell her she’s against it, but doesn’t care that Jennifer will never speak to her again.”
- “That’s a disgusting attitude for a mother. You can love your daughter without supporting her horrible behavior.”
- “Good god, could it be more obvious that Hayleigh is Mama’s favourite? I feel for Jennifer. She lost her fiancé, her sister and her mother. While these three actually haven’t lost anything that’s important to them.”
- “If Hayleigh can marry Jennifer’s fiancé and have Jennifer give in, that says a lot about the different expectations between siblings.”
- “So I’m assuming that if your husband cheated on you with your sister and left you for her, you would have forgiven them?”
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