There are people who cannot avoid it: in any context or situation, they have to speak incessant themselves. A psychiatrist has revealed in a video on YouTube six reasons why they act like this.
The doctor Sohom das He is a forensic psychiatrist based in London who also directs a channel with his name on YouTube. Share content on criminology, mental health diseases and psychology, among other issues.
“We have all known and we have bored of people who only talk about themselves. Here are seven possible psychological factors underlying that explain their behavior, “he says.
“Personally, I think this is one of the ugliest features in a conversation, Where it really stands out when I know a new person for the first time, but they only talk about themselves, “adds Das.
Narcissism
According to DAS, narcissism is probably the main reason why people only talk about themselves: “people with Narcissistic personality traits They usually have exaggerated self -esteem and a deep need for admiration. “
“You may see conversations not as a double -meaning street to entertain yourself, educate or stimulate each otheror even for two old friends to meet … but simply as opportunities to show their achievements without taking into account the perspectives of others, “says the psychiatrist.
Lack of empathy
People who have empathy problems “can have Difficulties to understand or consider feelings And experiences of the other person who finds them boring when they are chatting, “according to the psychiatrist.
The psychiatrist adds that his main approach focuses on his own inner world and his needs. Das explains that, although there is a coincidence with narcissism, it is not exactly the same, since “narcissism It’s about presuming and looking for admirationwhile the lack of empathy could simply not care about the problems or opinions of the other person. “
Insecurity
“Surprisingly, egocentric behavior can sometimes derive from underlying insecurity, so that constant self -promotion can be Una way of seeking validation and approval, compensating for the feelings of incompetence, “says Das.
So, hearing this, you might think: “A moment, this occurs similar to narcissism”, But in reality it is the opposite. Narcissism feels superior, but also insecure. It overcompses because it feels inferior.
Poor social skills
Dr. Das explains that some people simply do not have the necessary social skills to Participate in a reciprocal conversation.
This means that they can have difficult difficultiesTo interpret social signalsunderstand conversation shifts and show a genuine interest in others.
“For example, some people with autism have difficulty understanding social signals (…) I do not mean all people with autism, I just say that it is A common feature “says the psychiatrist.
Alternatively, it could be a person who simply It has not been integrated into society. Perhaps he had very peculiar parents and, in general, he did not relate to other people during his childhood, so he could not practice the art of conversation.
Search for attention
“In some cases, Egocentric behavior It can be a way of seeking attention and validation, but not necessarily admiration, “says Dr. Das.
“That is the difference. It is very similar to narcissism, but the difference is that They do not necessarily need to be admired. They just want to be noticed. For example, the clown of the class who does not care that they laugh at him or that they intimidate him, as long as they do not ignore it, “he says.
Depression
“I must say that this is unusual, but depression can cause negative cognitions and nihilist thoughts. Therefore, the person could constantly speak of their problems. He might complain about his life, but it could be due to the fact that he feels so much misery and dejection that he only wants to let off steam as a form of catharsis, “says Das.
The psychiatrist adds that in this case, the individual could feel so pessimistic that “he just doesn’t care If you are being entertained in a conversation or not. “
He is a boring person
The psychiatrist then lists his seventh additional reason, which comes from his clinical experience: that some people only talk about themselves because its interlocutor is boring.
“Perhaps in other social situations, this individual is lovely and interactive, but gets very little from you, or You never reveal any personal information, Or maybe your opinions are so insulous or even offensive that they literally fill the space, fill the gaps in the conversation, “he concludes.
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