L.Dear reader, many people should know that: In relationships there are regular arguments, which can also ignite in very banal everyday conversations. Why is that? One reason for this could be that one of the partners is carrying around an unconscious anger. When the couple has made up again, they can sometimes even laugh at the pointlessness of the argument. But in moments of anger, both are bitterly serious. How does such aggression come about, and why do some relationships suffer while others have never experienced it? “If someone suddenly becomes aggressive in a relationship or elsewhere, out of nowhere, then there is often an unconscious anger behind it,” explains Andreas Wahl-Kordon, psychotherapist and medical director of the Oberberg Fachklinik Schwarzwald, to our colleague Katrin Hummel. He has looked after many angry patients. What they all have in common is that they are usually not even aware that they are angry. According to Wahl-Kordon, such an outburst of anger is always based on the need to isolate oneself in order not to suffer again the feeling of powerlessness in which one’s own general anger arose. Sometimes this has to do with parents.
Away from quarreling to itching: They are less than a millimeter in size, but whoever gets to know them will, if in doubt, speak of them for weeks. Autumn mites, also called summer mites – more precisely: their larvae – seem to be particularly active this year. Patients are increasingly turning to their general practitioners, complaining of itchy areas that often extend over entire parts of the body such as arms and legs. The pustules itch more than mosquito bites and they last longer. Most sufferers have to wait up to two weeks for pustules and itching to go away. These mites appear from June to October. They prefer low vegetation and are often found in gardens and there on meadows. The larvae bite under the skin, suck up protein-rich lymph and disappear again after a few hours. But the itching remains. Katja Winter took a closer look at the matter with the mites.
And finally, some true love: What should a widowed woman, 65 years old, and a divorced man, 67 years old, do with their large, debt-free homes if they want to live under one roof in the future? What may seem simple at first glance can lead to tangible problems on closer inspection, and this is why our financial expert Volker Looman has summarized the pitfalls of this story. His tip: a bed is a bed and a house is a house. Please don’t lump this together. What does he mean by that? Please read it here.
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Your Carsten Knop
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