The behavior of a person in love or interested in you can result complicated to understandespecially if it’s someone who suffers Avitative attachment. That is why a psychologist has explained in Tiktok what are the signs for Identify “if you like” or not.
Mariana, known in social networks like @destrauma, is a young psychologist who disseminates content about the Love, relationships or traumas that the latter can cause. In this case, he has published a video analyzing “the things that a person does with an avoidative attachment when he is in love with you.”
First, he assures that these types of people “give you space”, although sometimes this is “too much.” “You can say things like ‘I don’t want to overwhelm you’, ‘You see with your friends’ or ‘Don’t worry about me’ when They really want to see you“He says.
The reason why they act as this expert is that “They are scared to feel needy or dependent“, so if it is you who does not invite you to a plan or event, this person would understand without problem and even prefer it at times.
“They find it hard to express their love with words”
“They do things for you instead of saying what they feel because they have trouble expressing their love with words,” says Mariana, “that’s why they show it with service acts“How to help you do a task,” take flowers “or” give away a detail without having a reason. ”
In addition, these “open little by little, since Showing their vulnerability cost them a lot“, But when they do” it is a giant sign of trust and love “, as something of her childhood or work. The psychologist emphasizes that in the beginning of the relationships in which one of the members has this type of attachment, this takes space and takes to respond to messages or with acts.
Also, during these beginnings, they look for plans without much “emotional intimacy“like” exercise together “or” see a series “and demonstrate interest” with small but significant acts “speaking of the future without too much” pressure. “
“They are people who learned to protect themselves emotionally since childhood. His brain interprets proximity as a risk because They fear being rejectedlose their independence or be injured. Therefore, even if they feel love, they tend to move away or be cold or distant to not lose control, “he adds.
For its part, the expert urges that No one “takes staff” If the person he likes moves away or has a cold attitude and recognizing “his acts of love”, although these are different. In turn, it affects that the most important thing is to understand the independence of the other and respect it.
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