Explanations, fear of being stigmatized, and a covert departure from a wet party at home. Maaret Kallio thinks in his column about why people still refuse to drink.
Celebration as the guest begins to whisper quietly in the waiter’s ear, “Would you have a non-alcoholic option?” The request is ok in every way, but still expressing it is a bit of a shame. You shouldn’t make a drink out of drinking if you want to avoid wondering queries.
Party volumes have increased and wine is flowing. The man would not want to take any more, and the body or mind is no longer thirsty for any orders. But the pressure is strong: “What what? Of course the dude will take! Not in the middle of the night now! ” And behold, a new larval board is at the table.
“Don’t be a cheerleader!” a coworker wakes up when a colleague is about to leave home for Christmas. Explanations, white lies and spousal departure. Care must be taken not to offend anyone without being able to get drunk.
If you are never refused alcohol or wanted to dodge drunken company, you may also have heard of these: Relax a little now! Not a couple of bad things! Why have to be so strict?
Non-alcoholism or low drinking is quickly associated with reality, control, and threat, as if pleasure without liquor is indeed a pretense. But who thinks?
Non-drinking or low drinking can evoke even more emotion than heavy drinking, although the latter is known to be a major nuisance to both the drinker and those close to him. The choice of non-drinking often has to be explained more, and it is the non-alcoholic option that must be requested separately at parties, and not the other way around. At the same time, it is well known that alcohol is not healthy, let alone drunk.
Why does not drinking cause irritation in streaks? What is bothering the other in dishonesty?
Is the shame of a non-drinker even greater than the shame of a drinker?
“There is shame often on both sides of the glass, ”describes the chief physician of the A-clinic Kaarlo Simojoki, to whom the phenomenon is very familiar. Although young people drink less than previous generations, there is still more pressure to drink than not to drink.
Little drinkers or non-drinkers may be left without invitations to parties or social evenings. The externality created by not drinking makes it sore and increases the pressure. Often the line is also ashamed, which drives one to criticize a different choice.
Paradoxically, many have to wonder if they are eligible if they are not drinking. Am I accepted and wanted to join, even though I don’t want to get drunk? The issue is really not just for young people, but also for adults. Can you accept him who does not drink in peace? And if not, do you understand why not?
Non-drinking there can be a number of different reasons behind this. For some, the roots of the causes lead to very sore spots whose unauthorized jogging or criticism is cruel. Alcohol can be associated with painful experiences of one’s own childhood as an invisible child of drinking parents.
Non-drinking can also be associated with a wise awareness of one’s own tendencies for excesses, addiction, or abuse. For many, non-drinking is above all a choice for their own well-being, wanting to prioritize well-being, sleep and endurance.
However, the pressure to drink can be enormous. It’s scary to be branded a cheerleader just because you don’t drink or want to get drunk. Getting out of the community is always difficult and more painful for a group that is more important to them.
The threat of loneliness can force you to drink against your will. It is distressing if the group entry code is a symbiotic similarity in which the contents of the glass determine the suitability of the individual. Deep down the question is: wouldn’t I just be good without liquor?
A huge number There are painful experiences of alcohol in the history of Finnish adults. The glass childhood in which a child has suffered from his or her parent’s alcohol use affects many of us. Even if refusing or consuming alcohol is not a traumatic background, it is important to keep in mind that the biggest sorrows of life can also be involved.
In the end, alcohol use is never just a matter for the individual, it always belongs to others as well: the family, the children, the spouse, and the surrounding community. A difficult and shameful subject easily turns against the non-drinker. Would it finally be time to create acceptable safety for non-drinking and room for more reflection on your own drinking?
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