Risto Mejide has a new girlfriend. He is younger again, this time he is 21 years older. He has three couples in a row who do not exceed thirty, which makes him the Iberian Leonardo DiCaprio. The photo with the actress Grecia Castta with whom he is now dating reopens the debate about love and the age difference, which seemed extremely out of date, but the arrival of Metoo revived him, turning older boyfriends into suspects of perversion. The puritanism of Generation Z proves right, increasingly shortening the age range; Younger people did not think well of Taylor Swift’s relationship at 20 with actor Jake Gyllenhaal, only nine years older. What does not change, generation after generation, is the opposite; When a mature woman is with the young boy it is because she is empowered and there is no abuse.
Relationships like Risto’s are pointed out by hegemonic feminism as an abuse of power against women’s autonomy. The problem is that the speech goes against that same objective. Women who don’t complain about their own relationships are taken for fools who need to be protected. They are wrong, they don’t know who they are sleeping with. One falls into infantilization by questioning the reasons why they choose consensual partners and judging them with condescension. Her inquisitors forget that love exists and that’s it – although Laura Escanes agreed with them, saying that there are things that are better not to romanticize after breaking up with Risto. And they also forget that there are women with a taste for hypergamy, defined as the predisposition to look for a partner of a higher socioeconomic class than their own.
It is a complicated melon for which science has an answer. A study from Emory University (Atlanta, USA) determined that the perfect difference in a stable love relationship is 1 or 2 years. With 10 years of difference, it is proven that they break around 40-50%. And if there are more than 20, the breakage percentage rises to 95%. Age does determine the success of a couple, but because the key is in the equality of conditions, values and objectives that vary at each vital moment.
In an act that determined that one of the Metoo would be considered sexist on my part, I have thought about what I would say to my adult daughter in the future if one day she tells me that she is dating a man who is 20 years older than her. I would ask him what a man looks for in a partner two decades younger in which he has already done everything. Maybe he comes from a separation and has little desire to feel older and a lot of desire to recover his ego… I would also ask him what someone very young is looking for in someone much older. Maybe to cover paternal shortcomings and what he needs is the phone number of a psychoanalyst to whom I would surely also have to go. And I would tell him that I know of a study in which in 90% of the cases the young girl ends up leaving the man. In the remaining 10% they leave her for another younger woman.
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