The cheaters tried to justify themselves and compared sex with others to sweets

Supporters of cheating began to identify themselves as “sweet lovers” and formed an online community to try to justify their behavior. About it writes The i.

A community of “cake eaters” has appeared on the Reddit platform, which already includes more than eight thousand people. Members of the community are “married people, usually happily married, who regularly have sex with their spouses, who have no plans to divorce, but who still enjoy having sex with other people.” They compared cheating to sweets in order to reduce the degree of social condemnation for those who cannot limit their sex life to marriage.

“I love my wife and children. I have no desire to leave them, but I crave more sexual satisfaction than I get at home. I don’t think my wife and I are sexually compatible. I had low self-esteem in my youth and didn’t experience much before I got married at 21. I miss the excitement of first meetings and I really enjoy meeting new people. I just discovered the term “sweet lover” and felt it sounded much better than “cheater.” “Love for sweets” allowed me to save my marriage and family. “I know it’s technically wrong, but I love my wife and I don’t want to destroy our family,” James, 42, who works in business logistics, explained his position.

In the growing online community, there are many who believe that “crush” is a more neutral expression compared to “cheating.” Moreover, some participants come to the conclusion that there is a kind of altruism in their behavior, since they maintain relationships and simultaneously satisfy their needs. However, there are those who do not try to hide from themselves and others the fact of betrayal towards a permanent partner. The latter become part of the community to better understand themselves and the reasons why they have affairs on the side.

Earlier it was reported that a woman from Australia found out that her husband cheated on her at a bachelor party a year and a half after the wedding. As it turns out, he slept with her best friend.